Anal sex is to sex what dead languages to culture. The more knowledge of the former, the greater the use of the latter. Moreover, in the sexual field, the exploration of the erotic classics has to be more exhaustive. To be clearer, if you want to know Latin you’ll have to master Greek. At first, you’ll find the classic assumptions and myths about Hellenistic sex: it’s not pleasant for them, men act like they’re shooting porn movies, everyone does it except you, there’s no such thing as anal orgasm, etc….
Even though anal sex can become an Odyssey, it must be made clear that, after all, it’s just another way of… fucking. The fact is that the facticity of these myths shows that people don’t talk enough about anal pleasure. Shall we talk?
As part of a relationship or even as a sporadic and spicy encounter, anal sex has a lot to offer. Not to mention that the taboo nature of Greek is, at the same time, part of its appeal.
There are only two barriers to overcome. On the one hand, it’s about knowing how to do it your first time. And, on the other hand, it’s about making anal sex as enjoyable and fun as possible.
Introduction to Greek: the receptor of anal sex
When you decide you want to get anal sex, you have to control it from start to finish. To begin with, that means you need to make it clear that you want to, because your partner may be too insecure about doing so without explicit consent. But how can I say it?:
Probably the easiest way to tell her that you don’t want a conventional reception is… well, tell her you want to… play through the back door? (Note: many men are not very good at catching hints or reading the subtleties of body language so, if your partner is male, tell him directly and explicitly that you want that: anal sex).
The best results can come from expressing – manifestly – that you want anal penetration while having sex. Your partner will probably see the doors of heaven open at best.
Another way is to send her a text message or an e-mail informing her of your intentions in advance. However, this has two drawbacks: one is that, when the time comes, you no longer feel like doing it; another is that your partner thinks that’s all you want, and disregard the rest of your sexual expectations.
A sexier approach to telling her you want anal sex is… not telling her! Your partner will go crazy if you let them watch you playing with a little vibrator or an anal plug. I’m sure you’ll get what you want… where you want it.
Introduction to Greek: the giver of anal sex
Yes, you’ll feel pain if only for a moment. But can you get him to be nice? The answer is also “yes,” but you need to approach it sensitively:
If you haven’t started it, have not made it clear that you want to have it or if you are not sure that it has given you the green light, you need to confirm before trying. Otherwise, it may take a long time before you can restore confidence.
As in the case of the receptor, there are many options available to initiate anal sex: tell him/her directly while having sex or during the preliminaries, beforehand via email or whatsapp, show him/her what you want by paying a little more attention to your ass during the warm-up, etc…
Also, if you are the giver, you have another slightly more daring way to learn Greek declines: find a nice position – we suggest a kind of teaspoonful posture, sideways and with his back on your chest. This way, you can hug your partner and let him/her know that there is something vibrating back there. Quickly, you will know if everything goes well, without needing to ruin the moment.
But remember, there are no shortcuts. You can’t lose sight of the fact that there is nothing better than a good and sincere bedroom conversation… and that, to say it dirty, always counts as the best kind of conversation you can have in these cases.
Make anal sex more enjoyable
It is true that there are times when, without a clear intention, a couple can have the most amazing anal intercourse ever dreamt of. And there are times when two people have a beer, come back to the apartment and… bam! Its performance becomes an ode to the gods of ancient Greece, which could be envied by Zeus himself (AKA Nacho Vidal). Although, in truth, it is normal for a certain amount of preparation to be required in order to approach a similar outcome.
Remember that the recipient must have everything related to anal sex under control: fundamentally, speed and depth. For his part, the giver will have to listen, to prevent it from becoming unpleasant and painful; rebuilding trust after a disastrous first time is, at best, a slow and frustrating process.
For nothing bad to happen, we offer you three tricks that will make anal sex very desirable:
- Tip #1: Moisturizer.
You’ve probably already been told that a high-quality intimate lubricant is essential for anal sex. In fact, the more the better. Apply both moisturizer and to trap a manatee in a fish tank, and then add some more. The more you lubricate, the more pleasant it will be for both of you. It’s as simple as that, but you can add a little style to it so that it doesn’t look like the doctor’s office is passing… Don’t you know what I mean? Light some candles, put on some music, give her a massage and then use lubricant!
- Tip #2: Condoms.
Condoms are great for anal sex, not just because they provide safety from infections. Condoms are also better for the anal because they slide more easily, and as a result are more pleasing to the recipient. And, in their case, they help men prevent orgasm… too much soon.
Do you think wearing a condom will turn off the heat of the moment? We do not agree. Take a look at this article: The 5 sexiest ways to put a condom on your partner.
- Tip #3: Toys for anal sex.
Some toys such as anal plugs or prostate massagers can make the transition to anal sex easier: using progressively larger vibrators during foreplay, you’ll find it much easier to know when your partner should come into play. At that moment, try to stimulate your clitoris or your penis (clitoris massagers and masturbation cups are very comfortable in this section), while you’re having sex: you’ll double the intensity of the sensations and build the ideal scenario for a total orgasm.